Thoughts on Goal Weight

Some people have emailed me privately and asked me how I figured out what my goal weight was and how I’ve been able to have maintained it for a year and a half now. I thought it might be good to answer in the form of a post.

To be honest, I never had a goal weight in mind.

About 27 months ago, when I realized I had an eating disorder and started my quest to be binge-free, I pretty much went on a 1700-1750 calorie a day routine of eating healthy foods with some chocolate thrown in every day so I didn’t feel deprived. As you know, I weighed/measured my food portions and kept a tally of the calories I ingested.

I also worked out (and still do) four days a week pretty much without fail.

Well, the weight came off and my body, after about 10 months of being binge-free, just somehow naturally settled at the weight I am now while eating that amount of calories per day and following the same workout routine. I guess that was my body’s way of telling me that this is a good, healthy weight for me.

So I really didn’t have a weight I was shooting for, I just stopped losing weight and have maintained for about 18 months.

Now that I’ve switched to intuitive eating, I guess I will really find out what weight my body wants/needs to be. I hope it isn’t too much different than my current weight. I’ve started on a new journey and I’m interested to see where it leads me.

Do you feel like your body is at it’s natural, healthy weight?

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  1. Cascia @ Healthy Moms
    07 April 2010, 6:54 pm

    Good for you! After having four kids I am finally back to an ideal weight for my height and age. The last time I weighed this little was about ten years ago. Now I feel great!
    .-= Cascia @ Healthy Moms´s last blog ..Is Your Child Getting Enough Calcium? [Digg] =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    Cascia, that is awesome!

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  2. My Lipstick Life
    07 April 2010, 7:01 pm

    I don’t have a goal weight either and I am counting on my boby to tell me what it is. That being said, I do know that I need to lose over 100 pounds regardless of where I settle in the end. Having an idea of a healthy range is a good goal. Kudos to you for keeping it off – that’s the hardest part for me!
    .-= My Lipstick Life´s last blog ..Something’s Gotta Give =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    i just think that sometimes people have a weight in mind for themselves that is unrealistic, not something their body is “programmed” to maintain, which just leads to frustration. i agree that a healthy range is the best idea.

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  3. Diana
    07 April 2010, 8:25 pm

    Wow…1700 calories with working out 4 days per week? I could never go that low with working out!

    I agree wilth what you’ve said. I just want to stop binging and let my body settle where it “wants” to be!

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    well, i’m only 5’3″, so 1700+ worked for me.

    you will get there, diana. if i can do it, anyone can.

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  4. Jill
    07 April 2010, 8:31 pm

    At 5’4 170…not at all! 🙁

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    it’s a journey, jill. i was over 170 lbs at one point too.

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    Jill Reply:

    Oh definitely, and shame on me for just blurting out my weight and not congratulating you. Congratulations on all you’ve and will continue to do! 😀

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    lol! no worries!

  5. Jill
    07 April 2010, 9:10 pm

    That should have been “all you’ve done”.

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  6. Holly
    08 April 2010, 8:50 am

    Congraulations for maintaining…and for not being obsessed with a certain number on the scale! I know so many people (myself in the past included) who’ve said basically “I won’t be happy until I get to XXX pounds.” And usually this doesn’t happen, and they get discouraged and it leads to binges, and it’s just a vicious cycle.

    I think my body is at it’s natural, healthy weight – but I do wonder sometimes if I’m wrong. I do have a small frame, but growing up I didn’t consider myself thin. I don’t know if my body has changed? Or if I’m making it be this way because I work out and eat healthy? I don’t know if that makes sense….but I’d *like* to think it’s my natural weight because, though it DOES fluctuate throughout the month, I’ve been at this weight for about 16 months without feeling like I’m “dieting” at all.
    .-= Holly´s last blog ..Larabar Giveaway! =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    yes, i think that is what a lot of people do – they think one magic number on the scale is suddenly going to change their livesinto a magical world, but that is just not the case.

    i’m sure with all of your working out and eating healthily (is that a word?), that your body composition has changed. it’s great that you’ve maintained your weight for all that time and not feel like you are “dieting”. that is what i was trying to say too. =)

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  7. Sagan
    08 April 2010, 9:21 am

    When I first started losing weight, I had a “goal weight” in mind. I managed to reach it, and then I ended up dropping 12 more pounds due to depression. My body hovered at that weight even after I recovered, and it was at that weight for a solid couple years quite happily without real “effort” to keep it that way… but since I’ve gained a few pounds, my body is not as happy. It used to be very happy at this weight, but it’s not quite the right weight for me anymore. Funny how our bodies get accustomed to things like that!
    .-= Sagan´s last blog ..The Living Healthy in the Real World Guide to Budgeting, Part Three: Debts and Loans =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    interesting story, sagan. i guess our bodies change as we get older. a weight that was good for you at one point, no longer feels “right” years later. you were probably comfortable at the weight you were at, so something feels a bit off now.

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  8. Waisting Time
    08 April 2010, 10:36 am

    I just came over from your guest post on Bobbie’s blog. This is the exact subject of my own post today! That number and how we choose it and how we know if we are there! Thanks for sharing your story. I will be back to read more:)

    Karen

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    how funny that that was the subject of your post today too! i will definitely check it out.
    thanks for stopping by, karen!

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  9. Sarah
    08 April 2010, 11:20 am

    I definitely do not feel that I am at my natural weight. I don’t think I will get there or know where that is, though, until I stop bingeing. 🙁 Last year I reached my lowest adult weight ever and I felt pretty good there and was maintaining with good eating and a lot of exercise. I feel like if I can get back into that routine, and practice intuitive eating, I will find my healthy weight. I hope so anyway!

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    I bet you can do it, sarah! as i’ve said before, if i can do it anyone can. and even if you don’t get to that natural weight, just aim for being healthy.

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  10. Biz
    08 April 2010, 12:32 pm

    I wish I could eat intuitively, but since I use insulin to control my diabetes, I still weigh just about everything I eat. Oh, and I still have 30 pounds to lose! 😀
    .-= Biz´s last blog ..Reason 1,049 I love Tony and BSI – Sour Cream! =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    my goodness, for your diabetes you must weigh/measure your portions, there is no other choice. you are doing a great job!

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  11. Jody - Fit ta 52
    08 April 2010, 4:13 pm

    Now that is the way to do it & big congrats to you! I wrote that post about how when I was younger, I though I wanted to be like 100-105 pounds BUT in essence I really did not have a goal beyond losing weight & a way I wanted to look & as I said then, with no end date… it was a lifestyle.

    As for where I am now, my bod actually might prefer to settle at a bit higher weight.. maybe about 5 pounds more BUT I want to look a certain way so I push myself past where my bod wants to settle. This is my choice & many don’t need or want to do this. This is strictly my own personal choice & goal.

    Congrats to you!
    .-= Jody – Fit ta 52´s last blog ..Children Will Listen & See; Happy Bday Steph! =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    thanks, jody! yup, it’s a lifestyle, not a temporary fix.
    it’s interesting that you know the difference of where your body might rather be and are able to keep it where you would like it to be. many people would not have the wherewithal to do that. you are truly the commander of your body, which is rare when it’s done in a healthful way as you are doing.

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  12. Lara
    09 April 2010, 4:06 pm

    For me it is not so much about the number on the scale but how my body looks and how clothes fit. With that said my body would probably like to be about 5 pounds more than I am currently and my mind would like to be about 5 lbs less LOL
    Once I hit 35 (41 now) I found that I could not maintain the weight that I maintained in my 20’s/early 30’s and had always considered my ideal. I don’t know if hormonal or what but if anything I was eating healthier, exercising better etc yet the weight started creeping up and it took uber restriction to get it to go down so I revised my goal upwards of 5 lbs or so and I am OK with that. I am pear shaped and no matter what I do my lower body is larger than I like but I have come to accept that nothing short of liposuction (which I won’t do) will change those areas and that is just how I was meant to be.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    that is a great attitude, how your clothes fit and how you feel you look is more important than the number on the scale. working out creates muscle, which looks like more on the scale, but your clothes fit looser.
    sadly, our metabolism slows down the older we get (i’m 42) and gravity is a b#tch too. =) body acceptance is so important. so many people never get there, so that is fabulous that you are already there!

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    Lara Reply:

    Yup, when I started really weight lifting my clothes got looser yet my weight stayed the same (even went up a little). I still do envy certain body shapes (longer, leaner) but I am short (5’2) and curvier and no amount of diet excercise will change that! When I lose I just start looking too small on top and have found as I get older being thinner in the face/neck is more aging. ahh. the things we have to deal with as we age 🙂

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    i hear ya, i’m 5’3″ and getting older by the minute. =)

  13. Rita
    10 April 2010, 1:04 am

    Great post. I do think it’s a hard one sometimes, the numbers can be overwhelming and addicting. For myself as a lifelong heavy person I just didn’t know what those mysterious numbers looked like, they were random, fantastical things but they had not reality for me. So I picked one, got there, went 10lbs lower, then went 5lbs under that. I liked it there. It felt healthy and fast. I’m about 10lbs up from that right now and it’s uncomfortable, not self loathing just not comfortable. It’s nice to feel that, even though it can be unpleasant, I didn’t get that until I hit 220 before. It’s nice to lower the threshold.

    Congrats on the maintenance as well. It’s always inspiring to see people doing it, and with many of the same challenges.
    .-= Rita´s last blog ..Home, Tired, Tanned and Happy =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    oh yes, i know how numbers can be totally addicting, which is why after decades i have made the recent changes in my life. it was a huge change, but so far it is going well. fingers crossed! =)
    congrats on that tremendous loss that is getting you to a healthy place! just feeling feelings, ones we used to push down by eating too much food, is a good thing. i’m sorry you feel uncomfortable right now. i guess you need to find a way to embrace this weight, or try to get your head in the right place to lose the weight in a healthy, maintable way. it’s so hard, i know.

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    Rita Reply:

    The weight is coming off just by eating when I’m hungry, imagine that. I’m more interested in examining the motivations behind the binges that lead me to the 10lbs that are there right now. I’m confident in taking off them off sensibly when the time is right, that’s a nice place to be, I don’t feel rushed about it right now, first things first. Because as you said, feeling the feelings is the main thing.
    .-= Rita´s last blog ..Body Image, Mexican Style =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    i know! crazy to just eat when hungry, huh? for so long, it didn’t matter whether i was hungry or not, i was going to stuff my face.
    you are moving along in your journey and that is so great.

  14. Laurie
    12 April 2010, 4:10 pm

    My ‘Goal Weight’ is is always – LESS. Seems that no matter what the scale says when I get on, I want it to be LESS. Realizing this is scary, and it is no wonder I find this journey so frustrating. Even at my lowest adult weight (which was during an extrememly stressful peroid of my life) I got on the scale and saw 113. At 5’4″, this was the lowest adult weight I had ever been at. It still was not good enough. (I would do anything to be at that weight again…I would be MORE than happy with it now I am sure!) I can’t wait until the day my ideal weight is WHATEVER THE SCALE SAYS TODAY. 😉

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    isn’t it crazy what we women put ourselves through?!??! i like your attitude of your ideal weight being whatever the scale says. really, the important thing is being healthy, not a certain weight. thinness does not equal happiness, as you found out at 113.

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