Comments on: My Dearest Daughter, Mommy Has an Eating Disorder http://confessionsofacompulsiveeater.com/my-dearest-daughter-mommy-has-an-eating-disorder/ You are only as sick as your secrets Fri, 20 Jan 2012 21:45:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: love2eatinpa http://confessionsofacompulsiveeater.com/my-dearest-daughter-mommy-has-an-eating-disorder/comment-page-1/#comment-3524 love2eatinpa Tue, 26 Jul 2011 18:46:33 +0000 http://confessionsofacompulsiveeater.com/?p=1634#comment-3524 first of all, my heart goes out to you and your daughter. this is not easy for either of you. i am no expert, but it sounds to me like you are doing all the right things and quite frankly, i am very impressed with your 10-yr old who was able to verbalize the reason she turned to food. you don't want to turn this into a power struggle, sounds like you aren't doing that. you want her to think of food as something to just fuel her body, not take care of any emotional reasons. i think seeing a therapist is the best way for her to work through the pain, as well as defense mechanism of turning to food for comfort, so again, you are totally on the right track! best of luck to the both of you. first of all, my heart goes out to you and your daughter. this is not easy for either of you.
i am no expert, but it sounds to me like you are doing all the right things and quite frankly, i am very impressed with your 10-yr old who was able to verbalize the reason she turned to food. you don’t want to turn this into a power struggle, sounds like you aren’t doing that. you want her to think of food as something to just fuel her body, not take care of any emotional reasons.
i think seeing a therapist is the best way for her to work through the pain, as well as defense mechanism of turning to food for comfort, so again, you are totally on the right track!
best of luck to the both of you.

]]> By: Vix http://confessionsofacompulsiveeater.com/my-dearest-daughter-mommy-has-an-eating-disorder/comment-page-1/#comment-3523 Vix Tue, 26 Jul 2011 17:33:12 +0000 http://confessionsofacompulsiveeater.com/?p=1634#comment-3523 Hi, I wouldn't say that my relationship with food is totally healthy, but I go through phases. However my 10 year old daughter is eating secretly, sneaking food, even raw bacon from the fridge. Last week I discovered that she had made herself sick. She says it's the first time she has been successful, although not the first time she has tried. She says it started two years ago when my dad was dying of cancer and I wasn't around much, she felt emotional and it filled a gap. After being looked at as if I'm making it up (as she is a little over weight) thedoctor has finally referee her to an ED councillor. Please give me any advise you can. I also took the line sometime ago that as long as she wasn't secretive or lying all she needed to do was ask. Each time it has worked for a couple of weeks and then she has reverted. I now have a cupboard which all my children can help themselves from (healthy stuff) without asking. But I worry as her weight can fluctuate by as much as 9-10 lbs in a month. But then I worry that it's my underlying anxiety that is causing the problem. What do you think? Hi, I wouldn’t say that my relationship with food is totally healthy, but I go through phases. However my 10 year old daughter is eating secretly, sneaking food, even raw bacon from the fridge. Last week I discovered that she had made herself sick. She says it’s the first time she has been successful, although not the first time she has tried. She says it started two years ago when my dad was dying of cancer and I wasn’t around much, she felt emotional and it filled a gap. After being looked at as if I’m making it up (as she is a little over weight) thedoctor has finally referee her to an ED councillor. Please give me any advise you can. I also took the line sometime ago that as long as she wasn’t secretive or lying all she needed to do was ask. Each time it has worked for a couple of weeks and then she has reverted. I now have a cupboard which all my children can help themselves from (healthy stuff) without asking. But I worry as her weight can fluctuate by as much as 9-10 lbs in a month. But then I worry that it’s my underlying anxiety that is causing the problem. What do you think?

]]> By: love2eatinpa http://confessionsofacompulsiveeater.com/my-dearest-daughter-mommy-has-an-eating-disorder/comment-page-1/#comment-3282 love2eatinpa Fri, 10 Dec 2010 16:50:38 +0000 http://confessionsofacompulsiveeater.com/?p=1634#comment-3282 thank you so much for writing! it's interesting to hear it from your perspective. i'm not sure, at age 10, how much my daughter absorbed, if she truly caught that it was my issue, not hers, but i feel good about opening the door of conversation about the topic. i truly hope that she can now feel totally comfortable talking to me about any food-related issue. thank you so much for writing! it’s interesting to hear it from your perspective. i’m not sure, at age 10, how much my daughter absorbed, if she truly caught that it was my issue, not hers, but i feel good about opening the door of conversation about the topic. i truly hope that she can now feel totally comfortable talking to me about any food-related issue.

]]> By: sprinkles http://confessionsofacompulsiveeater.com/my-dearest-daughter-mommy-has-an-eating-disorder/comment-page-1/#comment-3281 sprinkles Fri, 10 Dec 2010 15:32:40 +0000 http://confessionsofacompulsiveeater.com/?p=1634#comment-3281 For as long as I can remember my mother had weight issues (she's a binger as well). Reading this brought such emotion to me. I wish my mother would have been brave enough to say these words to me. I am not overweight and never have been, in fact I'm as close to picture perfect healthy as possible. But the fear that I will one day become my mother haunts me each and every day. If only she would've said to me, "this is my issue, not yours" how things could be so different. It's an impossible thing for others to understand – the mother-daughter relationship with food. But it's a strong, underlying tone and I applaud you for doing this. For as long as I can remember my mother had weight issues (she’s a binger as well). Reading this brought such emotion to me. I wish my mother would have been brave enough to say these words to me. I am not overweight and never have been, in fact I’m as close to picture perfect healthy as possible. But the fear that I will one day become my mother haunts me each and every day. If only she would’ve said to me, “this is my issue, not yours” how things could be so different. It’s an impossible thing for others to understand – the mother-daughter relationship with food. But it’s a strong, underlying tone and I applaud you for doing this.

]]> By: NEDAwareness Week « Live, Laugh & Grow http://confessionsofacompulsiveeater.com/my-dearest-daughter-mommy-has-an-eating-disorder/comment-page-1/#comment-2276 NEDAwareness Week « Live, Laugh & Grow Thu, 13 May 2010 03:47:10 +0000 http://confessionsofacompulsiveeater.com/?p=1634#comment-2276 [...] beautiful and thought-proving as they were, none was more heart-wrenching than Love2Eat at Confessions of a Compulsive Eater‘s letter to her daughter. In it, she shares the letter she wrote to her ten-year old, in [...] [...] beautiful and thought-proving as they were, none was more heart-wrenching than Love2Eat at Confessions of a Compulsive Eater‘s letter to her daughter. In it, she shares the letter she wrote to her ten-year old, in [...]

]]> By: Confessions of Compulsive Eating: Recovery, Resources & Food, Part 2 | Weightless http://confessionsofacompulsiveeater.com/my-dearest-daughter-mommy-has-an-eating-disorder/comment-page-1/#comment-2069 Confessions of Compulsive Eating: Recovery, Resources & Food, Part 2 | Weightless Wed, 28 Apr 2010 12:32:43 +0000 http://confessionsofacompulsiveeater.com/?p=1634#comment-2069 [...] wrote a powerful letter to your daughter revealing your eating disorder. How do you suggest parents who’ve struggled with [...] [...] wrote a powerful letter to your daughter revealing your eating disorder. How do you suggest parents who’ve struggled with [...]

]]> By: The Giggly Bits | I Want to be Her Hero http://confessionsofacompulsiveeater.com/my-dearest-daughter-mommy-has-an-eating-disorder/comment-page-1/#comment-1343 The Giggly Bits | I Want to be Her Hero Tue, 23 Mar 2010 18:19:35 +0000 http://confessionsofacompulsiveeater.com/?p=1634#comment-1343 [...] reading a wonderfully touching blog post today all I could think of was my little girl.  I can’t remember how many times my friends [...] [...] reading a wonderfully touching blog post today all I could think of was my little girl.  I can’t remember how many times my friends [...]

]]> By: love2eatinpa http://confessionsofacompulsiveeater.com/my-dearest-daughter-mommy-has-an-eating-disorder/comment-page-1/#comment-793 love2eatinpa Tue, 02 Mar 2010 01:22:46 +0000 http://confessionsofacompulsiveeater.com/?p=1634#comment-793 oh my goodness, jess, i don't know what to say to respond to your overwhelmingly kind words, thank you! oh my goodness, jess, i don’t know what to say to respond to your overwhelmingly kind words, thank you!

]]> By: Jess http://confessionsofacompulsiveeater.com/my-dearest-daughter-mommy-has-an-eating-disorder/comment-page-1/#comment-791 Jess Tue, 02 Mar 2010 00:44:55 +0000 http://confessionsofacompulsiveeater.com/?p=1634#comment-791 You got me crying full on, here. That was so beautiful, revealing, and even painful. But it was so hopeful, too! I have no idea what else to say except I gotta go get tissues. You are such a fantastic ambassador of hope through abstinence. Thank you so much for fighting for your life so you could inspire people (okay, me) to keep working toward my humanity through sanity. You got me crying full on, here. That was so beautiful, revealing, and even painful. But it was so hopeful, too! I have no idea what else to say except I gotta go get tissues.

You are such a fantastic ambassador of hope through abstinence. Thank you so much for fighting for your life so you could inspire people (okay, me) to keep working toward my humanity through sanity.

]]> By: love2eatinpa http://confessionsofacompulsiveeater.com/my-dearest-daughter-mommy-has-an-eating-disorder/comment-page-1/#comment-787 love2eatinpa Mon, 01 Mar 2010 21:35:01 +0000 http://confessionsofacompulsiveeater.com/?p=1634#comment-787 aw, thanks! i'm a work in progress. =) aw, thanks! i’m a work in progress. =)

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