My Daughter is Eating Better

Just wanted to give you an update on my daughter and her eating. 


She seems to be eating more lately, which I’m very happy about.  It’s very bizarre to go from saying “careful, don’t eat too much or you will get a belly ache” to “go ahead and have some more!!”, a whole mindset change that I had to wrap my brain around.


I realized not too long ago that I was doing my kids a disservice.  To help out my husband and myself, I have typically bought “light” versions of foods all these years.  It’s not as though the only snacks in my house available were carrots and celery sticks, but I have never really brought junk food into the house for snacking.  For one, I didn’t want it to be a temptation for me, but there has always been that part of my brain (the compulsive eater part) that was fearful that my children would have my eating problems and become overweight at a young age.  Instead of oreos, tastykakes and chips, I buy fruit, granola bars, goldfish, teddy grahams, pretzels, etc.,  things that aren’t fabulous, but healthier choices, in my opinion anyway, than the other junk food I mentioned.


I have clearly lost sight of the fact that my kids are growing children, unlike my husband and I who do not need to food to help us “grow” any more.  So now that I have asked my daughter what snacks she would like to have, I have been bringing the junk food into the house.  Not tons of it, but it’s in my house now, nonetheless.  I have also started to buy full-fat versions of certain things that I know she eats so that she will not even know she is taking in more fat and calories (i.e. cream cheese, syrup, peanut butter, real ice cream). So instead of my trying to gently remind her that the doctor said she should eat some more, I’m sneaking in the calories without her even knowing.


I’m praying that it is all making a difference.  It is good to see her eating  with gusto the snacks that she requested and so far, thank goodness, the junk  has not been calling to me.  I lost sight of the fact that she is just a kid, one that should not be deprived of the good stuff we all grew up on.  Believe me, I don’t want to her to fill her growing body with junk food, but at this point I need her to gain weight and I don’t want her to look at that stuff as ‘forbidden fruit.’ However, I do try to keep the balance as those other snacks are still in the house and my dinners are always healthy.


I still have yet to find out whether or not her eating issues stem from watching me weigh and measure, etc, or if it is peer pressure at school.  More than likely, it’s a combination of both.  Unfortunately, she is not the type of kid you can get straight answers from, so my gentle questioning is futile.  She has seen the guidance counselor at school with a group of girls (unbeknownst to her why she is going) and that will continue on a monthly basis.  Hopefully with all these new things in place, she will learn good eating habits and have a good body image, something we all should strive for.


Again, the key word is balance.  I want her to listen to her body’s cues instead of just eating because she loves to eat like her mother did/does.  I hope that when I take her back to the pediatrician at the end of the month, she will have gained some weight and perhaps she will not have to go for the bloodwork to see if there is a medical problem.

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  1. Jess
    13 December 2009, 8:20 pm

    This sounds like you’re balancing things really well! 🙂


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