Getaway & Giveaway Results

First order of business… Congrats to Beth @ Beth’s Journey to Thin who won Jenni Schaefer’s book “good bye ed, hello me” via random.org!

Beth, shoot me an email with your mailing address so I can get the book sent to you. Hope you get as much out of the book as I did!

Second, I had a wonderful Sunday – Monday getaway with my husband. (We were the winning bidder on a silent auction at a fundraiser for a night’s stay and dinner at the Borgata in Atlantic City. We saw a comedy show after dinner and had a great time.)

The getaway was a bunch of “re’s”… relaxing, refreshing, recharging and we did some needed reconnecting.

It was wonderful, if even for just 27 hours, to be just grown-ups having fun together, with no responsibilities. Personally, it meant not being mom/referee/cook/dishwasher, just being a wife who had a wonderful time remembering why she loves her husband so much.

We had wonderful meals, and for me, there was no obsessions or concerns about food before, during or after. I made good choices, had treats within moderation and felt wonderfully unencumbered by any thoughts of an eating disorder.

My m-i-l stayed at our house with the kids while we were away. We are so lucky that she lives close by and that she is willing to do that for us. It’s a win-win — the kids love her, she loves to be with the kids and we get some quality adult time.

I remember when my daughter was born 10-1/2 years ago, my independent personality rarely accepted the help she offered. I was not brought up in a home where people were nurturing and I became very independent in order to survive. Also, as a new mom, nursing around clock, I didn’t think she could do much to help me anyway, and I think I wanted to prove I could handle my own baby.

Well, when my son came along 2 yrs and 4 months later, I realized what an amazing gift I had in my m-i-l. By that time, with a newborn and a toddler, I was so grateful for the help, that I certainly sought her out.

So I/we are quite lucky to have her live less than 15 minutes away and that she is always willing to step in and watch the kids when she is available.

Have you ever had a gift like this right under your nose but didn’t realize it?

One Day at a Time... Nurture myself... Awareness... Letting Go... Listen to my Body

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  1. Lisa
    04 May 2010, 6:54 pm

    That’s great that you get along with the mother-in-law and that she is such a big help! I hope that someday I have a similar situation–especially since my mom lives in another state.
    .-= Lisa´s last blog ..Bike Route =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    she is the polar opposite of my mom, so she took some time getting used to. =) my mom is several states away.

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  2. Karen @ Waisting Time
    04 May 2010, 8:28 pm

    Sounds like a great time! It’s nice to get away without the kids to reconnect as a couple. It gets easier as they get older. My MIL used to come stay with mine but now she is not able to get up/down the stairs in our house. Sad.
    .-= Karen @ Waisting Time´s last blog ..Who Wants Average? =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    with how hectic our lives our, the getaway and reconnect was much needed. thanks for the hope for the future! =) it’s nice that your mil used to help you out too!

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  3. amanda
    04 May 2010, 8:39 pm

    Wow sounds like the weekend was nice. Last time I was in Atlantic City was in Jan and it was freezing cold. I ran the boardwalk anyway in the snow and below temps. ha ha Anyway, that is so great your m-i-l is so close and can help you out.
    .-= amanda´s last blog ..Eating my way around a city =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    it was really great, thanks! hey, are you local? i love running on the boardwalk. i’m impressed that you ran in that kind of weather! you are a better woman than i! =)

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    amanda Reply:

    Yeah it was crazy that I ran in that weather but the hotel we were staying at, the gym was completely packed.

    I live in the DC metro area
    .-= amanda´s last blog ..Eating my way around a city =-.

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  4. Diana
    05 May 2010, 8:32 am

    Unfortunately, it feels that way with MIL I think. At least it did for me. I have often seen my MIL’s help as nosey, bossy, and controling but I’m not sure that it is. I think it’s her way of caring and supporting. After all, they were the caretakers of a family for so long. Who wants to lose that? And, who doesn’t want people to care enough that they offer their advice and help? And, who can’t use advice from people that have gone through the trenches sucessfully.

    Great post! Really hit on an “issue” that’s becoming less of an issue for me…but one I still need to work out 🙂

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    yes, yes, yes! do we have the same mil? =) i know it’s her way of caring and supporting, but it was so foreign to me i felt like she was overwhelming. it just took some getting used to and growing up on my part i guess. you are so right – she brought up wonderful kids, one of whom i’m happily married to, so i could certainly benefit from her going through the trenches.

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  5. Diane Fit to the Finish
    05 May 2010, 8:50 am

    How lucky you are! I love my mother-in-law but it did take me a while to warm up to her!

    I’m glad you had this wonderful time with your hubby!
    .-= Diane Fit to the Finish´s last blog ..Do You Have Just One Favorite? =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    hmmm, i’m seeing a pattern here. glad i’m not the only one who took some time to get used to her mil. =)

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  6. Jody - Fit at 52
    05 May 2010, 9:01 am

    What a wonderful time for you! Loved the sound of that! You deserve it!

    I think we often take for granted the ones that mean the most to us.. have to stop that! 🙂
    .-= Jody – Fit at 52´s last blog ..Green, White, Black – Which Tea is Best =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    thanks, jody! and yes, we do take for granted those that mean the most to us and it is important to recognize that and stop. kinda hard though sometimes.

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  7. Patsy
    05 May 2010, 9:10 am

    Glad you had a great getaway! Looking forward to mine! 🙂
    .-= Patsy´s last blog ..Getting ready…. =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    enjoy enjoy enjoy!!!

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  8. She-Fit
    05 May 2010, 9:27 am

    Wow, what a blessing to have her so close. I’m happy that you and your husband were able to get away for a night!
    .-= She-Fit´s last blog ..Vitalicious VitaTop Giveaway =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    yup, it is a blessing that is so close and so willing to help and be involved. i need to remember that down the line when i’m a mil. =)

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  9. Beth @ Beth's Journey to Thin
    05 May 2010, 9:35 am

    YESSS I’m so excited!!!! 🙂 🙂

    And I think its so easy to overlook “gifts” and take things for granted. I try to appreciate whats around me and slow down every once in a while and look around.
    .-= Beth @ Beth’s Journey to Thin´s last blog ..Lettuce Wraps =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    thanks for getting in touch, beth!

    it’s good that you are aware of the gifts and try to slow down. i’m still working on the slowing down part. it’s so hard!!

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  10. Holly
    05 May 2010, 12:19 pm

    I am SO glad you had a wonderful time away! It’s so wonderful to get away, if even only for a day or two. Completely refreshes me, and I think I need to escape somewhere very soon! This whole work thing is very the birds. 🙂

    It sounds like you’re very blessed in having your MIL so close by! My sisters’ MILs are both VERY helpful to them. Makes me more optimistic that those horror stories about MILs aren’t *always* true!
    .-= Holly´s last blog ..Ask Me Anything =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    thanks, holly, it was definitely a much-needed refresher. plan your escape!

    and nope, not all the MIL horror stories happen to everyone. =)

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  11. POD
    05 May 2010, 4:23 pm

    I have had too many ‘under my nose’ gifts to count. In some ways I suppose everything is a sort of “gift.” On that note, my son left and I’m relieved from duty. Thank goodness!
    .-= POD´s last blog ..Up and Down =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    you’re right, most everything is a gift! enjoy your off-dutiness! =)

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  12. Sagan
    05 May 2010, 9:48 pm

    What a lovely getaway! It’s really important to do that; I don’t think that people do that often enough.

    One of my mum’s good friends is a wonderful woman, but her daughter-in-law treats her like crap. It’s really sad because she rarely gets to see her grandson; last year she didn’t even get flowers for Mother’s Day from her son! So it’s great to hear that you and your mother-in-law get along and that she’s able to spend plenty of time with your kids… we take family for granted too often.
    .-= Sagan´s last blog ..Product Review and Giveaway: Tropical Traditions Coconut Oil =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    you’re right, sagan, it is really important to do that. i love my kids dearly, but quality time with my husband is SO important.

    oh boy, the story about your mum’s good friend is a shame. you are right, we take family for granted too often and sometimes don’t realize it until something horrible happens.

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  13. Rita @ The Giggly Bits
    06 May 2010, 1:12 pm

    I’m so glad you both had a wonderful adult time. It’s so easy to forget what we were all like together before the stuff, and kids and more stuff.

    Kudos on the food too, what a pleasure to just enjoy the event and the food without being preoccupied.

    Oh right, I almost forgot, I left you something on my blog!
    .-= Rita @ The Giggly Bits´s last blog ..Oh My Blog!Vlog =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    thanks, rita! yes, it is sometimes hard to remember what it was like BK (before kids!).

    oooh, i better look on your blog…

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