Focusing on the Positive

I’m borrowing this idea from Holly (thanks, girl!) who posted these questions the other day. I thought it might be fun to post.

1) What physical features do you love about yourself?
I think I have nice arms and shoulders. I’m lucky that I don’t carry weight there, so from working out, my arms look pretty toned and cut. Of course my mother-in-law and her friends think I look ill, but they don’t come from a generation where women workout/lift weights. Ironically, I am one of those people who is always cold, so I practically always have my arms covered. Go figure!

2) How do you personally take care of yourself?
I take care of myself by eating as healthy as I can. I’m pretty fussy and don’t like a lot of fruits and vegetables, but I do try to eat the ones that I do like as much as I can. I workout four days a week like clockwork, and my sleep is very important to me.

3) What are you looking forward to?
Warmer weather, a one-night get-a-way planned with my husband tomorrow!!

4) Who has aided your recovery the most?
My therapist, followed by books I’ve read. And of course – me! =)

5) What was the very last thing you ate?
breakfast – oatmeal with scrambled eggs in one bowl (thanks, alicia!)

6) What is one material thing you are dying to have right now?
A necklace from The Silver Maple or a snow-blower for next winter. =)

7) If you could travel anywhere, where would you go?
Hawaii or Israel

8 ) What is/was your biggest fear food, and how will/did you conquer it?
That’s a tough one… I have learned from my therapist not to frame foods in that way, that nothing should be feared or forbidden. But prior to learning that from him, I guess I would say dark chocolate. I safely always have a bag of dark chocolate Hershey’s kisses (my gravatar!) so I can have a few to get my sweet fix after dinner. Years ago I would have some, then keep jumping again for “just one more” over and over again. I don’t remember how I conquered it, but it is always in my house and always for after dinner.

9) What are your dreams for life after ED?
I feel like my toe is dipping into “life after ED” right now and it feels wonderful. My dream is for it to always be as it has for the past month – I’m not obsessed with food thoughts, I don’t weigh/measure portions, I don’t get on the scale every day. I’m binge-free 2+ years. I want to maintain my current weight while doing these things and be able to live this way for the rest of my life. I also dream/pray that I don’t pass down an ED to my daughter.

10) What advice would you give to someone concerning eating disorders?
Definitely to seek help to find the root of where the ED comes from, analyze it and then put it behind you. I think that has been key for me. Another huge thing is being honest about it. Maybe not with the whole world, but with some people you can trust, because I really believe in my tagline – you are only as sick as your secrets.

Hey all, as I mentioned in #3, I will be away Sunday – Monday (woohoo!) so I will be MIA blog-wise. Catch up with everyone on Tuesday! Have a great weekend!

And oh, there is still time to enter the book giveaway, see original post here. Deadline is May 2, a random winner will be chosen on May 3.

One Day at a Time... Nurture myself... Awareness... Letting Go... Listen to my Body

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  1. Jody - Fit at 52
    01 May 2010, 12:04 pm

    Enjoyed reading this & your answers! THX! I like my arms too. I tend to be cold to BUT these hormone hot flashes at night drive me crazy! 🙂

    Hawaii, I love it! A place I have not been that I want to go – New Zealand!

    Hope you had a great time away! Unplug & enjoy! 🙂
    .-= Jody – Fit at 52´s last blog ..Colorado Cookie; Saturday Funny =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    thanks, jody!!!

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  2. Karen @ Waisting Time
    01 May 2010, 12:13 pm

    It was interesting to learn more about you. Looks like you might get your wish for warm weather today! Have a great trip with your husband:)
    .-= Karen @ Waisting Time´s last blog ..May Day =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    thanks, karen! yes, i’m happy for some sunshine and warmth! kind of lifts the spirits, ya know?

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  3. Holly
    01 May 2010, 4:27 pm

    I loved reading your answers to these! I love how you credit YOURself for your recovery. I never thought of it that way, but we can be our biggest cheerleaders, right? And I also love how you don’t think of fears as “fearful” or “off limits.” I’m trying to shift my thinking in this, too.

    I can definitely see how far you’ve come, and it’s great to see someone who has such a positive outlook on eating and their recovery. Thank you so much for sharing this with us!
    .-= Holly´s last blog ..Focusing on the Positive =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    thanks, holly! you know, i was looking at that question and thought to myself – i deserve some credit in this, don’t i? a therapist can talk till the cows come home and i can read all the books in the world, but I am the one who has to pull it together and make it happen. i rarely take credit for stuff like that, but this time i thought – what the heck!?!??

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  4. Lanine Bradley
    01 May 2010, 5:58 pm

    Great idea! Although I cannot agree on the whole dark chocolate thing. I can completely relate to going back for one and one more and one more. I recently threw out half a bag of kisses that were in my glove compartment and wasn’t a big deal.

    That felt really good b/c at one time, I couldn’t have thrown them out and I would have thought about it later.
    .-= Lanine Bradley´s last blog ..Arrgghh Matey =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    wow, good for you! though of course to me, that sent a shiver up my spine! 🙂

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  5. Kyle
    01 May 2010, 7:07 pm

    I think #4 is the most important. You got better because of you…yes others facilitated and assisted, but you did it.

    I know that I got myself into this mess (even if there were also contributing forces in my childhood), and I was responsible for getting myself out.

    You are a strong person…a force to be reckoned with.

    Enjoy your hubbie getaway…those are so important!
    .-= Kyle´s last blog ..Just a Rubberband, Rubberband man…Get down! =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    thanks, kyle! although i was a bit hesitant to write it, i realized that it was in fact true. i felt good about that!

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  6. Hope @ Hope's Journey
    01 May 2010, 9:08 pm

    I love posts like this! I think sometimes we all need a healthy dose of positive. 🙂

    Oh, and congrats on being binge-free for two years. That’s seriously something to be proud of!

    Hope

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    thanks for the kind and supportive words, hope. i’m glad you dropped by!

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  7. Gina Fit by 41 Maybe 42
    02 May 2010, 10:46 am

    Eggs and oatmeal? lol

    It was nice getting to know you some more. Thanks for sharing.
    .-= Gina Fit by 41 Maybe 42´s last blog ..The Weight Thing =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    i know, i know! at first i thought – how gross, but alicia at “poise in parma” suggested that the sweet and savory combo is really delish. so i tried it and she was right. now it’s one of my staples.

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  8. Diane Fit to the Finish
    02 May 2010, 11:39 am

    Thanks for sharing. I have a hard time with number 2. I have to consciously make the decision to take time for myself. it can be challenging!
    .-= Diane Fit to the Finish´s last blog ..Trying To Stay Safe =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    it IS very hard to make time for myself and it often comes last on my list, except for when it comes to getting to the gym. that’s a priority.

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  9. amanda
    02 May 2010, 6:55 pm

    Loving finding out so much more about you. I am also always cold..but I can blame having a thyroid problem (I was born without one!!). BTW, I hope you get in those vacations
    .-= amanda´s last blog ..The Big Salad! =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    wow, born w/out a thyroid! i’m sure that made from some scariness for your parents when you were born! =(

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  10. Sagan
    03 May 2010, 8:47 am

    Ooh they have pretty jewelry at the Silver Maple!

    I like this Q and A; it’s nice to see the positive stuff in there. And great advice for other people with disordered eating, too.

    Hope you had a lovely weekend 🙂
    .-= Sagan´s last blog ..Re-cap of the Thirty Days of Yoga Challenge =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    thanks so much, sagan!

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  11. MB
    03 May 2010, 3:13 pm

    Great post. Sometime it’s hard to find the positive when we’re knee deep in an ED. I’m just happy we’re making progress and hope we can come out the other end with a healthy relationship with food and our bodies.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    thanks! and here’s to progress and a healthy relationship with food and our bodies!!!

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  12. Sarah
    03 May 2010, 4:13 pm

    I also think #4 is the most important. You have done a lot of hard work to get to where you are, and I’m glad that you can acknowledge that and give yourself credit where credit is due! I hope you’re having a great time with your husband!

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    i’m not sure how the idea for myself to take credit popped into my head, but i’m glad it did. i like taking some of the resonsibility for my growth.

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  13. HereticPrincess
    03 May 2010, 4:41 pm

    Thanks for sharing these questions and answers with us! I read Holly’s as well and really enjoyed getting to know her more as well. My blog is on my myspace so it might not be super accessible as others are. 🙂
    .-= HereticPrincess´s last blog ..HereticPrincess Getting closer to getting school figured out… =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    i liked getting to know holly better too, which is why i asked her if i could steal her post. =)

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  14. Alicia
    03 May 2010, 8:27 pm

    thanks for the savory oats shoutout!

    I love your answer to number ten. I consistently get inspiration from you.
    .-= Alicia´s last blog ..monthly cooking class: chicken marsala =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    thanks, alicia. i truly believe those are the things that have helped me in my recovery.

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  15. karen@fitnessjourney
    04 May 2010, 2:08 pm

    Hope your getaway was a fun one!
    .-= karen@fitnessjourney´s last blog ..Boredom Busters Challenge =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    it was great, karen, thanks. i’ll be posting about it later today. =)

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  16. Lisa
    04 May 2010, 5:43 pm

    So funny about the necklace and the snowblower..a girl after my own heart….something nice…and something practical 🙂

    Shoulders and arms are the one thing on my that tone quick and look good. Hips….ugh…not so much…

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    lol!!! i have a feeling i’m getting the necklace cuz it’s cheaper =)

    here’s to toned arms and shoulders!

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  17. Food Addict
    02 June 2010, 4:43 pm

    I think I forget to love myself most of the time… because I’m so obcessed with putting myself down and reminding myself I’m fat. Thanks for posting this — I will be thinking about it, and probably repost on my blog!

    Thanks!!
    .-= Food Addict´s last blog ..Picture This =-.

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    love2eatinpa Reply:

    i know, it’s not easy to think about loving yourself. for me, it’s a conscious effort. we are all works in progress, right? =)

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