Comments on: Dessert Buffet Report Card

By: love2eatinpa

love2eatinpa — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 22:23:20 +0000

you are right, lara, it’s not healthy, but it would sure make things easier =). i will learn more tools so i can deal better.

By: Lara

Lara — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 22:12:17 +0000

I agree, avoiding food related situations is not healthy.

By: love2eatinpa

love2eatinpa — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 18:43:39 +0000

thanks for the great viewpoint, mary kate. i know i can’t hide from buffets, but it is so tempting to play it safe. i journalled via my blog and by talking to my husband about it. and you are right, it would not be the end of the world if i had more bread or cake, but i’m just hell-bent on remaining binge-free. i’m also afraid that going really overboard will start the binge-train rolling again and i do not want that to happen. i hated the crazy feeling that took over me when i was there.
and you are right, everyone overeats, but the difference is that eating disordered people do beat ourselves up about it and analyze it do death. (clearly i do that as well – just look at my blog!!! lol!!!)

By: love2eatinpa

love2eatinpa — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 18:36:58 +0000

thanks, holly. i hate that it is such a damn struggle though. my husband is a social butterfly, so even if i didn’t want to go to something, he would want our family to go. sometimes i go later to something like an all-day bbq because i know there will not be healthy choices for me there and i’d rather stay in the comfort zone of my own home. as you said, we do need to learn to cope with these situations, but it is just so anxiety-ridden!

By: Mary Kate

Mary Kate — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 15:13:44 +0000

i didn’t get to read through everyone’s comments so sorry if it is a repeat. You can’t hide from the world or buffets. That would do us more harm and (to me) teach our children to be fearful of food. You did better than last time and each time will get better. Did you journal your feelings before the event? After? And what if you allowed yourself more bread or that chocolate chip cake? You would not blow up like a balloon. Maybe a stomach ache? It seems we make it a binge by how we view the situation. Everyone overeats….we just beat ourself up over it and analyze it to death! at least I do!

count this as a success and work on your next event!
.-= Mary Kate´s last blog ..Photo Shoot…. =-.

By: Holly

Holly — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 14:12:51 +0000

I think you did VERY well!!

Sweets are definitely my down fall. Sure, I love pizza and cheese/crackers, but I can avoid salty foods no problem. Desserts? WHOLE other story!

I am the same as you in that I am tempted to (and sometimes do) avoid situations in which I know might trigger a binge for me. Thankfully there are not too many, although with the weather getting nicer I know it will mean more cookouts/parties. I know I do have to learn to cope with these situations, though, since they will always happen! I guess practice makes perfect, but it does create anxiety in me when I know I have to face them.
.-= Holly´s last blog ..Rock Climbing =-.

By: love2eatinpa

love2eatinpa — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 13:53:24 +0000

thanks, bobbie. it’s hard to tell when you are being too hard on yourself when it comes to this kind of thing. the sweets have been my downfall my whole life.

By: love2eatinpa

love2eatinpa — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 13:50:39 +0000

thanks, victoria. i needed to hear your perspective. it would be so easy just to miss the celebrations, but that it is why it’s so confusing, because i know i shouldn’t isolate myself and miss them. still, it’s hard testing myself! =)
i’m so glad you like the bracelet idea and of course don’t mind at all if you use it for yourself. good luck!

By: Bobbie @Anonymous Fat Girl

Bobbie @Anonymous Fat Girl — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 13:47:06 +0000

I do think you are being too hard on yourself – and it sounds like you did really well. That being said, buffets are so tough for me, especially dessert buffets. I love sweets, they are my downfall.
.-= Bobbie @Anonymous Fat Girl´s last blog ..Two words: HARD & WORK =-.

By: Victoria

Victoria — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 13:38:54 +0000

You did well. I have missed out on many celebrations because I did not feel like I could handle the temptation. That is a mistake. It is so important to be at those celebrations not only for your family but for yourself. You are learning to control those impulses and the only reason you are learning is because you are putting yourself in that position-if you never tested yourself, how would you know how far you have come! Good luck, be strong but be kind to yourself also. I love your idea of the bracelet and i am using that idea-I hope you don’t mind!